Well I am sad to say that much as intended to spend it doing something ‘oh so exciting’ I struggled to get motivated. It is almost as though with the pressure off I had run out of momentum – then all I could do was dither and be indecisive – it is very difficult to deal with when anyone in this frame of mind and I am no exception. I heard a report on the radio this week which said we spend two years of our lives dithering so I have resolved to just make a decision and stop wondering if it is the best. Mind you I am not saying we did nothing, in the evening we went to the pub with two of our close friends. That may seem a bit dull to some of you but in actual fact it is a rare occurrence as we would usually get together at each other's homes for a glass of wine so it was a nice change and actually a very enjoyable evening although I hate to think how many calories were consumed – not in alcohol but in various nibbles!! Not that I am a calorie counter but even I know that 3 packets of crisps and two big dishes of peanuts plus mini savoury biscuits far outweighs the exercise of walking to and from the pub. Never mind a good night was had by all!
We have a weekend almost free – most unusual - no taxi service required, no visits to be fitted in to here there and everywhere. We spent last weekend at a university open day for our youngest and bringing our eldest and all his stuff back from university. It's hard to believe the first year is over – well the term-time is – we still have the accommodation to pay for a good few weeks yet. I think they are only at uni for 30 weeks but halls for 46 weeks – now figure that one out! Anyhow I digress, the point is faced by an unexpectedly free weekend I feel a bit lost. I mean it’s a bit like when you were little and you got some money unexpectedly for Christmas or a birthday and you didn't know how to spend it. When although lots of ideas would pass through your head you almost didn't want to decide what to spend it on because once it was spent well you couldn't exactly spend it again. So back to today – what to do with this spare weekend - I am really quite lost. Last weekend I also went for cocktails to celebrate a good friend’s birthday – all girls together including our daughters and it was really fun. Now I need to know what other fun things are out there – exciting different interesting things - but for me and my other half – get the picture! After putting our heads together briefly I realised how out of touch we both are. So now to the internet, and lots of other places – I will let you know how we get on.
I have listened to friends recently chatting about marathons and the great feeling of achievement that they and other people experienced afterwards - as well as painful everything too of course. Much as a part of me would love to become part of this elite club, I know deep down it is not for me although I would like to feel fitter. Not that I am particularly unfit but before the children came along I was so active, badminton, squash, yoga, tap dancing, swimming, ballroom dancing and even the occasional gym workout. Once the children came along time was no longer as flexible and this seemed to get worse rather than better as they got older and needed taxiing everywhere. We did join a ballroom dance class when the children were really small but after a couple of years the class moved to a day when we could not get a babysitter so it fell by the wayside. Recently however we have returned to the dance floor to try ‘smooth jive’ which is fab and I recommend you give it a try with or without a partner. Yes really you do not need a partner as you all move around and dance with other folk during the lesson– not as scary as it sounds as it is all very friendly and organised – then there is a bit of a social dance to practice and again lots of invitations to dance. We have met some lovely people, had fun keeping fit and it is just so nice to do something different and together even if I have had to pop out at half time to collect my daughter – leaving my other half to have some extra practice. Have a look around online– search for jive classes and lots of varieties of the same thing come up like Ceroc and Easy Jive to name two. I am now keen to try Argentinian Tango – and even better so is my other half!
As you may recall alongside getting my head around a part empty and pending empty nest I am also dealing with redundancy which I have realised is actually not dissimilar in respect of the emotions its creates. So how am I getting on with it – well looking for a new job is quite a challenge at any age and at least I have plenty of experience of writing applications and interviews but the whole searching process is so time consuming now as there are hundreds and hundreds of adverts/postings on the main websites like Indeed. Anyhow trawling through the advertisements on line got me to thinking about the whole cold call industry as there are a lot of roles doing just that out there - all be it they are dressed up as something fancy. I don't know about you but I have always made a point of being polite when I receive such calls – difficult I know as they can be very annoying but I am always thankful I am not at the other end making the call. As part of my current job hunt I needed to follow up on a possible opportunity – I believe the correct term for this is a warm lead. I was not comfortable with this but I gathered up my courage and made the call and was duly rejected, all be it very nicely. This experience confirmed what I had always thought – putting yourself up for potential rejection is really tough and I can only have respect for the people who put themselves up for rejection time after time, all day and everyday often for a very low salary – I still find these calls incredibly annoying but they are trying to earn a living and it is not personal so I remain firmly polite advising I already have whatever they are offering before delivering a cheery ‘thanks for you call, goodbye!’
Today I received an email from ‘Hobbycraft about Bullet Journals. If you have not come across this it involves creating a journal with all your schedule, future dates, loads of lists of tasks and lots of organisation of plans ideas etc. even doodling headings like we used to do on our school exercise books when feeling rebellious – heaven, I could become hooked! But then my friend’s daughter showed me her journal and lovely as it was I realised this new trend is something I have always done but someone has now decided to give it a name and create a new trend about it! Now it is trending maybe I want to be different – been there done that!!
Thinking about things I would like to try I have focused on writing – I know I am writing now but in particular writing a novel – a bit old hat I know but still on my list of life goals. Now the question is do I need to ‘do’ a course? There seems to be a course for everything nowadays. Is it necessary, can I be bothered, can I not learn as I go? Is it all part of the whole ‘journey’ thing? Sorry to use the ‘j’ word. Note to self in my new notebook bought in Whitby! – look into writing courses. Is there a local club for such things? That brings me back to my ‘to do’ list. What can I tick off so far today – or indeed add so I can tick it off straight away – and if you say you never do that I don’t believe you!