How people see us!

Well as some of you will know I have been busy looking for a new job because along with an emptying nest I was also made redundant – quite a shock it was too. Whilst I have enjoyed some time off there is still a need to find a job and I have had a few interviews. A lot have been positive experiences and I have one or two things in the pipeline now but the reason I am talking about it here is because of the way a good interviewer causes one to be quite introspective. For example, today I was asked how my friends and colleagues would describe me in 2 or 3 words. Now it is not as if I have not practised this question before with my interview coach (husband) but I went blank – my answer was loyal dependable and fun – I sound a bit like an overgrown puppy dog. Now I am out of the interview I can think of lots of far more appropriate – how about efficient, organised, honest, friendly – tenacious even, I am not sure! It is interesting how we see ourselves and how we think the people around us see us. The same goes for our children. What we see and what others see – my daughter recently completed some work experience and friend who she served told me how polite and friendly she was. Sometimes we see their worst side when they are grumpy as they have a bad day. This is trickier to deal with when we get a call from our child now living away and I know I can sometimes overreact and worry about what to them is some throw away comment, a trivial issue. Unfortunately, when they were home we could witness the ebb and flow of their mood and know when to respond and when to just listen. But I am getting better at it…all be it slowly!